How to Create Confidence so you Live a Life and Business You Love
Let’s talk confidence and creating a life and business you love.
So many times we talk ourselves out of something just as fast as we had the thought of creating something magical.
Better yet, we feel we should have something before we’ve even done the necessary work or allowed enough time to pass.
Or how many times have you
found yourself “annoyed” at something
or entitled to something from someone just because you want it now or maybe giving up because "it" didn't happen "soon" enough?
Anyone else relate? I know I do. I know I’ve been all of these scenarios in various parts and times of my life. I know that I am extremely conscious any time I am
A) Playing small
B) Demanding instant gratification
C) Forgetting where I came from or how I may help serve someone
D) Quitting perhaps too soon
With practice and time, it is possible to shift and/or eradicate these thoughts. However, be clear the more you raise your passion, purpose, and potential, new layers arrive to peal away often times.
Have you ever found yourself thinking or saying…
Who Am I to…
Go to X
It hasn’t happened yet so it won’t
It isn’t happening “fast” enough
They aren’t interested, they never will be
It is a waste of my time because I don’t see a direct result yet
How can they not see how much I am worth
Now granted sometimes it is time to shift, learn or reevaluate. Simply, reflect on the heart of the matter.
How could they not see x
How come they don’t understand
Why aren’t they clear about x
How many times do I have to repeat myself
Have you stopped to think that perhaps when we teach or serve it is like speaking to ourselves when we once went through something?
Imagine, if we all increased in compassion.
These are simply reflections as I’ve grown and continued to grow in my own personal journey.
Things I’ve overcome and continue to.
I’ve not only experienced these, but I’ve also experienced being the one on the other side of the scenario now as I am sure you have.
It doesn’t not feel good. No matter which side, these energies impact our confidence.
As I write this at 12:53 EST on the plane headed to London, I thought how ironic that the focus theme for FIT Life Creation this week is Crazy Confidence.
I will also record a video “this week” in London or Vienna (it is dark on the plane LOL) on this topic as I believe it is very pertinent to each and every area of our lives.
I thought I would share insight from the sense of the next month of my life, and the crazy confidence it has taken to shift my own life to the next level to serve others.
Over the last several months, I set the intentions to not only visit my family overseas, but to create a life and business I love integrated.
To give you some background and behind the scenes (because everyone loves that and a great story right.
My parents met at a night club in Bulgaria, got married within 3 months, lived I Bulgaria, had me and I was born in Poland, left to a refugee camp in Trieste Italy when I was 6 months old, lived there for 10 months, then we immigrated to South Carolina.
We’ve lived in the US for >25 years more or less. However, my brother decided to study abroad and has now lived in Europe for >7 years. He lives in Vienna with his beautiful wife Andrea and my niece and nephew. My parents moved to Bulgaria after my dad retired few years ago. My mom also recently has had some health challenges. I’ve also had opportunities for growth to shift into massive momentum like the last 20 years of my life combined.
Phew whirlwind right.
So, with the intention of creating a life and business I love I began to play in May to visit my family, as well as create pop up transformation masterminds with FIT Life Creation in London, Barcelona, Brazil, Atlanta and Nashville.
I thought well I am going to London anyway, why not? I thought I want to wrap up my trip in Barcelona so why not create community and value creation?
Many of you may be wondering - were you afraid? How did you market? How did you find people? What steps did you take? “I would have to know every single step to do that” or “I could never do that - it scares me” or “I’ve never even left my city”
It’s simple not easy, set the intention and prayer, and take the next step or two. Rinse and repeat.
With that in mind, Let’s Talk How to Create the Confidence so You Live a Life and Business You Love
Step 1: Imagine It
To step into something new, it starts with the thought. What do you want to transform in your life? Write it down. What do you want to create in your business. Write it down.
Don’t stop yourself
Imagine it, create the vision, and walk in it.
So, for example, when I started planning my “European Tour” aka #globetrotter I first:
Looked at flights + timing.
Researched co working space with WeWork.
Reached out on Influencer Platforms.
Contacted Travel Bureaus for marketing
Now, granted this comes with years of experiences and learning. At the same time, that learning followed the same mindset - vision, creation, execution.
Deep breath. So, you’ve imagined it. You’ve written it down. You feel the feelings. You feel the pull of faith v. fear.
What’s next - create the vision. Start bringing it to life.
Street scenes from London this past week during my trip. I've actually visited before 4-5 times as my brother studied there, and we have always traveled a lot as a family.