How to Create Confidence so you Live a Life and Business You Love

Katrina Julia
Sep 22, 2018
7 min read

Let’s talk confidence and creating a life and business you love.

So many times we talk ourselves out of something just as fast as we had the thought of creating something magical.

Better yet, we feel we should have something before we’ve even done the necessary work or allowed enough time to pass.

Or how many times have you

found yourself “annoyed” at something

or entitled to something from someone just because you want it now or maybe giving up because "it" didn't happen "soon" enough?

Anyone else relate? I know I do. I know I’ve been all of these scenarios in various parts and times of my life. I know that I am extremely conscious any time I am

A) Playing small

B) Demanding instant gratification

C) Forgetting where I came from or how I may help serve someone

D) Quitting perhaps too soon

With practice and time, it is possible to shift and/or eradicate these thoughts. However, be clear the more you raise your passion, purpose, and potential, new layers arrive to peal away often times.

Have you ever found yourself thinking or saying…

Who Am I to…

Go to X

Try X

Be X

Feel X

Create X

It hasn’t happened yet so it won’t

It isn’t happening “fast” enough

They aren’t interested, they never will be

It is a waste of my time because I don’t see a direct result yet

How can they not see how much I am worth

Now granted sometimes it is time to shift, learn or reevaluate. Simply, reflect on the heart of the matter.

How could they not see x

How come they don’t understand

Why aren’t they clear about x

How many times do I have to repeat myself

Have you stopped to think that perhaps when we teach or serve it is like speaking to ourselves when we once went through something?

Imagine, if we all increased in compassion.

These are simply reflections as I’ve grown and continued to grow in my own personal journey.

Things I’ve overcome and continue to.

I’ve not only experienced these, but I’ve also experienced being the one on the other side of the scenario now as I am sure you have.

It doesn’t not feel good. No matter which side, these energies impact our confidence.

As I write this at 12:53 EST on the plane headed to London, I thought how ironic that the focus theme for FIT Life Creation this week is Crazy Confidence.

Light Bulb.

I will also record a video “this week” in London or Vienna (it is dark on the plane LOL) on this topic as I believe it is very pertinent to each and every area of our lives.

I thought I would share insight from the sense of the next month of my life, and the crazy confidence it has taken to shift my own life to the next level to serve others.

Over the last several months, I set the intentions to not only visit my family overseas, but to create a life and business I love integrated.

Background

To give you some background and behind the scenes (because everyone loves that and a great story right.

My parents met at a night club in Bulgaria, got married within 3 months, lived I Bulgaria, had me and I was born in Poland, left to a refugee camp in Trieste Italy when I was 6 months old, lived there for 10 months, then we immigrated to South Carolina.

We’ve lived in the US for >25 years more or less. However, my brother decided to study abroad and has now lived in Europe for >7 years. He lives in Vienna with his beautiful wife Andrea and my niece and nephew. My parents moved to Bulgaria after my dad retired few years ago. My mom also recently has had some health challenges. I’ve also had opportunities for growth to shift into massive momentum like the last 20 years of my life combined.

Phew whirlwind right.

So, with the intention of creating a life and business I love I began to play in May to visit my family, as well as create pop up transformation masterminds with FIT Life Creation in London, Barcelona, Brazil, Atlanta and Nashville.

I thought well I am going to London anyway, why not? I thought I want to wrap up my trip in Barcelona so why not create community and value creation?

Many of you may be wondering - were you afraid? How did you market? How did you find people? What steps did you take? “I would have to know every single step to do that” or “I could never do that - it scares me” or “I’ve never even left my city”

It’s simple not easy, set the intention and prayer, and take the next step or two. Rinse and repeat.

With that in mind, Let’s Talk How to Create the Confidence so You Live a Life and Business You Love

Step 1: Imagine It

To step into something new, it starts with the thought. What do you want to transform in your life? Write it down. What do you want to create in your business. Write it down.

Don’t stop yourself

Imagine it, create the vision, and walk in it.

So, for example, when I started planning my “European Tour” aka #globetrotter I first:

Looked at flights + timing.
Researched co working space with WeWork.
Reached out on Influencer Platforms.
Contacted Travel Bureaus for marketing

Now, granted this comes with years of experiences and learning. At the same time, that learning followed the same mindset - vision, creation, execution.

Deep breath. So, you’ve imagined it. You’ve written it down. You feel the feelings. You feel the pull of faith v. fear.

What’s next - create the vision. Start bringing it to life.

Street scenes from London this past week during my trip. I've actually visited before 4-5 times as my brother studied there, and we have always traveled a lot as a family.

Step 2: Create the Vision

Creating the vision will stretch you and stretch you some more. So, yes I have family overseas. Yes, I have traveled to over 27 countries and now led retreats overseas. However, I had not yet created marketing events or pop ups overseas so this was a whole new imagination and creation moment no different than doing something new will be for you.

Our brains are wired to protect us so when we change something “things” come up.

Creating the vision is when you have now gone from crawling to almost walking / running with the dream.

Taking my example further with creating a life and business I love and how I continued to create the confidence in this particular scenario.

Booked flights.
Confirmed space.
Confirmed influencers.
Confirmed marketing partners.

Let me make this clear though - you may see these four items outlined nice and simple on a post and immediately think oh “it was easy for her she knew x person or y person”.

Noooooooo I knew NO ONE. I took LEAPS of faith and KEPT leaping. For the London pop up alone, I lost count of the no responses, no confirmations. Its probably 1000s LOL.

At the same time, we got >3000 influencer applications Jan - March. AT the same time, we got confirmation of Wonder Women Tech cohosting London with us. At the same time, we got Michelle Lowbridge - who has been featured in Forbes and other major publications for her books, financial works, energy editing, and more.

The point is - I believed in myself. I kept going. I kept reminding myself similar to other situations that I have overcome - if “this” climb is this long, or requires this much work, imagine the view from the top.

To create confidence so we live a life and business you love, we get to practice! It is no different than a baby learning to walk, a child finishing school, a business owner building a million or billion dollar business. It takes consistency and confidence that is built with time.

Sky Garden London Behind the Scenes shot on my Canon.

Step 3: Walk In It

Deep breath. So we’ve imagined it, we’ve created it, and we’ve prepared. What’s Next?

It’s crossing the final t’s, and dotting the final i’s knowing you’ve done your best for this round. It’s knowing that you will learn and get better.

To continue my example:

We set up a digital portal for the pop up experience to integrate technology
We sent out confirmations and addresses to the attendees
We’ve outreached to a few more influencers.
We’ve confirmed event set up with WeWork
I’ve practiced the pop up presentation and flow and tech tools.
I will set up the evening before all the links on my pc in a document so I have easy access.
Ive set the intention of hearts and lives transformed, and limitless value.

And most importantly, I’ve released control of what will be and who will be there.

Years ago, I would often be a OCD control freak out of fear (it developed post an abusive relationship in my 20s) and I just became aware of it massively in 2007 and began to shift it.

I released how much having a rigid expectation of a situation, circumstance, event or person held me almost like in a prison. In comparison, when I set an intention and trusted everything would work out perfectly and even better than I imagined, everything shifted in every way.

So, as I close this blog and podcast, I myself am creating the confidence to live a life and business I love and leaping right there with you…. Stay tuned till the next episode on how I share what happened in London with Jump Start Transformation!